Not knowing where you stand in a relationship is exhausting and scary.

A lot is on the line. When something goes right in your relationship, you definitely want it. Then, the same day or week, something bothers you and you think, "I can't do this forever." This internal conflict is emotionally and psychologically draining as you ping-pong back and forth trying to make the "right" decision.

You question “Are these unsatisfying parts worth leaving over? If I end the relationship will I find better? But what about the parts I love: I don’t want to give those up.”

Your life feels on hold, you feel stuck and unable to make a decision which gets in the way of you consistently committing to working on your relationship or making progress towards detaching from it and pursuing other avenues.

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We understand that a pros & cons list isn’t cutting it.

We respect and understand the importance of this decision and will provide you with tools, techniques, and guidance on these areas for contemplation and self-reflection to support you in reaching your decision. Your Relationship Ambivalence Counseling will be custom-tailored to your needs, but will likely include:


Clarifying the "Why?"

Thoughtfully processing your relationship and what contributes to your wavering thoughts and feelings.

Perform self-discovery together

Identify you and your partners love languages and attachment style and how these affect your relationship happiness.

Talk through the crucial details

Clarify your relationship non-negotiables, deal-breakers, and personal needs.

Goals and Values Alignment

Determine your life and relationship values and how they align with your current partner and relationship

Unpack unvoiced baggage

Process any unresolved intimacy issues, past relationship injuries or traumas that might interfere with your relationship satisfaction.

Gain Coping Skills

More constructively manage ambivalence and thoughts/beliefs that contribute to chronic wavering

Perform self-discovery together

Identify love languages and attachment styles and how these affect your relationship happiness.

Renew motivation + buy-in

Assess your ability and motivation to work on your relationship

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70 E Lake St #222
Chicago, IL 60601

Serving Chicago, Streeterville, Gold Coast, West Town, West Loop, River North, Old Town, Lincoln Park, Lakeview, Lincoln Square, Bucktown, Ravenswood and surrounding areas.

Common Questions

Do you accept insurance?

We are in network with the following insurance carriers:

  • Blue Cross Blue Shield PPO 
  • Blue Cross Blue Shield Blue Choice Advantage 
  • Blue Cross Blue Shield Blue Choice Preferred
  • United Behavioral Health, aka United Health Care
  • Optum Veterans Affairs Community Care Network

However, if you have a carrier that we don’t accept we can still work together! Using your out of network benefits, many insurance companies will provide you with 20% to 80% reimbursement for sessions. We provide you with an invoice, you send it into your insurance company and they mail you a check.

If you’d like to know what your out of network benefits are call the number on the back of your card and ask, “What are my out of network benefits for mental health counseling?” Please contact us to provide you with additional information about this.

Is there parking available at your office?

All el lines are within 1-2 blocks, and, there are two parking garages nearby at 60 E. Lake St. and 20 E. Randolph. Our building provides validated parking at 60 E. lake for $17.

I tried therapy and didn't like it. How's this different?

Therapy varies depending on the personalities of the counselor and client, as well as the particular concerns brought forward. Sometimes the chemistry between the counselor and client or the counselor’s style or approach just isn’t a good fit. The relationship between the client and the therapist is of utmost importance. Therefore, we work to create a safe environment where open and honest communication is encouraged so that concerns or questions about treatment or the relationship can be addressed in session. This often benefits the therapeutic process and deepens the therapeutic relationship.

What can I expect from the first few sessions?

During the first and second session, we will gather information about what has brought you into therapy including your concerns, what you’d like to work on and information about your current and past emotional health and life history. This information helps us gain a deeper understanding about your situation, you as a person and how to best help you. As noted earlier, since it is important that clients feel comfortable with their counseling, we encourage clients to also use the first session as an opportunity to assess if this is a good fit for you as well.

What can I expect during a typical therapy session?

During therapy you will begin to discuss and share your feelings, thoughts, and reactions in order for you to begin to gain insight, develop new thinking patters, coping skills and overall improved quality of life. It is natural to feel uncomfortable about opening up at first but this process because much easier after a few sessions. Since self-growth is possible through commitment and work I will encourage you to practice the things you discuss and learn outside of session.

How long will I need to be in therapy?

The number of sessions needed is different for everyone depending on your goals, concerns or symptoms, coping skills, and the progress you make towards reaching your short or long-term goals. However, research shows those that commit to at least 10 -12 sessions (aka 3 months) see improvement.

Is what I say in therapy confidential?

In general, all communications between a client and counselor are confidential and can only be released with the client’s written permission. However, there are some exceptions required by law to this rule. Exceptions include:

  • When there is a reasonable suspicion of child/dependent abuse or of an elder adult.
  • When the client communicates a threat of bodily injury to others.
  • When the client is suicidal.
  • When disclosure is required pursuant to a legal proceeding.
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